Can You Imagine Yourself Be In love with a Disabled - Waist Down Paralyzed?

Can You Imagine Yourself Be In love with a Disabled - Waist Down Paralyzed?


Hello my friends, i wan't to ask you if ever you will encounter a disabled person and proposed a love for you, how do you think you will react?

I am chatting with this very nice person online, we had a great time talking together everyday over the chat and became a good friends. He captured my whole attention, when we started talking more romantic, like all about love.

He started sharing to me his past relationship and we got along with each other more. I enjoyed talking and joking with him and i found him special for me. I would like to see him always first thing when i open my face book and find out if he is online so we can have fun talking with each other again, i am getting more excited each day i am with him on chat. I found him very nice and really has a good heart. I started to like him not only just a friend, and he was feeling the same way too. He said, he was falling for me so i was glad and did try to ask more about his personal details, until he said to me he is ashamed of his situation. I became curios why, then he revealed that he is not normal and never had a normal life since the age of 17. He was now 39 Paralyzed waist down and cannot be able to feel anything bellow his waist not can't move his both of his legs. He was on the bed and wheel chair over the two decade of his life. He got stubbed from the back that severely damage his spinal cord.

My heart was broken when i found out about his situation, i became upset and did not stop thinking about him that day. I would like to give him special love and attention but he is somehow refusing. He said he thinks he love me, and i feel same way for him i think, because he is now always on my mind. But he is discouraging me to fall deeply in love with him because of his situation.

Do you think i was really in love with him or is it something else strange feeling and affection for him. Please give me your idea guys, i am confused. Is it just another feeling of guilt that i pity or it is possible that i am really loving him?

Please help!

think about it..

do realy care for him because you love him.
Or
you're givin symphathy that's why you felt like caring for him.

let's take note about this grace.
In the few chat we have exchanged still you are bruised with your past.
And the situation of yours you ofter give more symphathy to others than yours because more often persons like us who bruised felt selfless in terms of giving comfort to others who seems like us.alone and bruised.

i am not saying cut it off
but search yourself where do you really stand.
Lover
friend
comFORTER?

Very nice Yshii, thank you for the good input...

Yeah, that's what bothering me right now... I might just trying to escape from my past failure that i don't like to get hurt again..
That's why i feel special for him... I am really confused....

graciamm wrote:

Very nice Yshii, thank you for the good input...

Yeah, that's what bothering me right now... I might just trying to escape from my past failure that i don't like to get hurt again..
That's why i feel special for him... I am really confused....

you're welcome graciamm.

i do understand that it's really confusing with your fresh cut.
But then when you look beyond you will see that there are much to look at.so much to do.to keep yourself from being confused.
You shoul know your goals and plans.your priorities.
I insist that your main priority is your child.why?
Because he is a gift to you,
inspiration,healer,etc.and no matter what happens that child will never leave the relationship he has in you.bonded and locked.

love him first and everything will follow.even your lovelife.don't compromise.stay on the standards you have set.

yshii wrote:

graciamm wrote:

Very nice Yshii, thank you for the good input...

Yeah, that's what bothering me right now... I might just trying to escape from my past failure that i don't like to get hurt again..
That's why i feel special for him... I am really confused....

you're welcome graciamm.

i do understand that it's really confusing with your fresh cut.
But then when you look beyond you will see that there are much to look at.so much to do.to keep yourself from being confused.
You shoul know your goals and plans.your priorities.
I insist that your main priority is your child.why?
Because he is a gift to you,
inspiration,healer,etc.and no matter what happens that child will never leave the relationship he has in you.bonded and locked.

love him first and everything will follow.even your lovelife.don't compromise.stay on the standards you have set.

Uy salamat, this is the best response i have recieved, i have posted this on another place, but your comments just seperb. Really good to see your response on this....

thank you that you have appreciated my advice.
It really comes from the heart when i start advicing.
Thank you and may God bless you always.

yshii wrote:

thank you that you have appreciated my advice.
It really comes from the heart when i start advicing.
Thank you and may God bless you always.

thank you

really thank you sa pag sharing more