How to Prevent Bad Relationships

How to Prevent Bad Relationships


No one wants to be part of an unhealthy relationship. The bad news is that it happens - some good relationships go south, some people seem to move from one hurtful relationship to another.
The good news is there are ways to avoid falling into the usual traps that burden, threaten and ultimately break relationships.
Be on the guard
Tread with caution. Look back on your previous relationships and what made them crumble. Make a conscious effort to learn from your past mistakes.

Also watch out for red flags – any indication that something is not quite right. Be particularly wary of signs of abuse, violence or manipulation.

Better yet, come up your own relationship deal breakers. Think of the traits or habits that, by your personal standards, are unacceptable in a partner. And when one of the non-negotiables on your list becomes apparent, take it as your cue to bow out of the relationship.

Be your own person
Do not lose yourself in a relationship. Some couples tend to think only in terms of "we" and forget "I". Relationships should be anchored on the idea of two persons working as a team. That means each individual member must have a voice, get a say in making decisions. Mutual respect needs to exist. So always assert yourself.

Set-ups where one is submissive and the other domineering are bound to fail. Control often translates to abuse. And somebody will end up feeling powerless, dismissed or fearfully dependent.

Talk it out
Keep the lines of communication open. Converse constantly. Discuss even the smallest of issues, so you can nip them in the bud.

If you can sense that something is eating into the relationship, share your sentiments with your partner. Letting him or her know how you feel could help pinpoint the problem.

For serious troubles, it's best to have your talk when both parties are calm and receptive. Discussing matters when tempers are running high will do more damage than good.

During the conversations, be honest, clear and open. Hear each other out and find a middle ground. You do not have to be on the same side. Agreeing to disagree is a form of compromise in itself.

Enjoy the company
Couples should be able to have a good time together, may it be fun and wild, or relaxing and comforting. If boredom seems to strike more often than normal or the chemistry is fading, this might be a sign that something is amiss. Find a way to identify and address the situation.

Work it out
Every relationship hits a snag. But not all survive.

If your find yourselves in a rough patch, do not give up. If the relationship is worth saving, fight for it. Resolve your issues.

But if the bad undoubtedly outweighs the good, then the relationship is unhealthy. There's no need to stick it out any longer.

There are no hard-and-fast rules to avoiding bad relationships. But it always helps to be vigilant. Be on the lookout for any red flags. Make sure there is mutual respect and trust. Communicate regularly, clearly and honestly.
Know when to let go and when course-correcting is an option.

There are no hard-and-fast rules to avoiding bad relationships. But it always helps to be vigilant. Be on the lookout for any red flags. Make sure there is mutual respect and trust. Communicate regularly, clearly and honestly.
Know when to let go and when course-correcting is an option.



Very well said graciammmm.

winter_ann wrote:

There are no hard-and-fast rules to avoiding bad relationships. But it always helps to be vigilant. Be on the lookout for any red flags. Make sure there is mutual respect and trust. Communicate regularly, clearly and honestly.
Know when to let go and when course-correcting is an option.



Very well said graciammmm.

Rules on relationship is essential though to avoid some disappointment to occur in the future, but i rules must not be so rough...both should approve on the agreements within the relationship otherwise it will lead much worse scenario...most importantly it must not be took for granted... Bad relationship starts in miscommunications and lack of understanding.

Experience is truly a best teacher... :

Mahirap din kasi yung ikaw lang yung nage-excert ng effort sa relationship eh.
So I suggest that you also make your loved one read this.
So that you can work on it together.

yes sinabi mo pa mhirap

squeekar wrote:

Mahirap din kasi yung ikaw lang yung nage-excert ng effort sa relationship eh.
So I suggest that you also make your loved one read this.
So that you can work on it together.

^I agree

dapat pantay lang para hindi makasira sarelation

dapat open sa isat isa.....
at may connection sa lahat ng bagay....

litemeon wrote:

yes sinabi mo pa mhirap

Have you been in such bad relationships?

squeekar wrote:

Mahirap din kasi yung ikaw lang yung nage-excert ng effort sa relationship eh.
So I suggest that you also make your loved one read this.
So that you can work on it together.

Exactly, there must be mutual understanding from both sides kasi hindi talaga natin hawak ang pag-iisip ng tao kahit pa sabihin nating mahal nyo ang isa't - isa. Meron parin tayong individual differences at sana maintindihan din yun ng ka relasyon natin... Equal value and respect sa isa't isa.

kung mahal ntain sialpag sinabhian lang ngilove you masaya na pero deep insiden may karelasyon ng iba maskit diba

litemeon wrote:

kung mahal ntain sialpag sinabhian lang ngilove you masaya na pero deep insiden may karelasyon ng iba maskit diba

RelationSHIPS sink when you have too many passengers.

sorry i dont understand

for me bad relation pag two timer

i like the term
talk it out
and
work it up.

some couples tend to murmur against their partners that often times they won't seat at talk about their problems o something that annoys them.this often becomes a crack to a relationship that eventually makes it fall apart.

so communicate rather than murmur.talk it out and work it up.

in a relationship you shouldn't be just a part of feedbacks but rather be a part of the solution as well.

i like the term
talk it out
and
work it up.

some couples tend to murmur against their partners that often times they won't seat at talk about their problems o something that annoys them.this often becomes a crack to a relationship that eventually makes it fall apart.

so communicate rather than murmur.talk it out and work it up.

in a relationship you shouldn't be just a part of feedbacks but rather be a part of the solution as well.

your english excelent

thank you bhoz.please be cooperative with posting a right coment with every thread.
Para maging relevant ang ating mga discussion.